Have you heard of Enneagrams? I hadn’t until my friend Caroline mentioned it on her Out Of Line podcast, which is SO good BTW. But I love a good personality test, so I got to Googling and discovered a free test you can take online to see what your personality type is!
According to this site…
“The fundamental premise of the Enneagram is that each of us have one dominant energy that drives us in everything we do. This dominant energy is our greatest gift so we use it too much and it becomes our chief fault or sin. This energy, like a prevailing wind that bends a tree permanently, sculpts our inner terrain and shapes our entire life.”
“The Enneagram map depicts what model of the universe each of nine different kinds of people have. This map, like all maps, describes some things and leaves out others. It characterizes the thoughts we think all day, it calibrates the energy levels we have for some things and lesser energies we have for other things. The Enneagram portrays our biggest problem in life and our greatest gift, and remarkably they are the same.”
I discovered multiple tests and got different results each time. I don’t know if that says more about me or the tests! But I took this test twice — once las night and again just now — and got the same result both times. And not one I necessarily wanted. However, I couldn’t fully dispute it either.
** Fives are thinkers who tend to withdraw and observe **
I didn’t relate to most of it, but I did to this part:
Fives are usually somewhat restrained when it comes to emotional expression, but they often have stronger feelings than they let on. Few people know what is going on beneath the surface, as Fives have an often exaggerated need for privacy and a deep-seated fear of intrusion.
Um, that is definitely me. I think that is also part of being an introvert — albeit an extroverted one — but although I wish I could be the type of person who could just have a friend or neighbor pop in unannounced, I loathe it. I’ve been known to run and hide from people coming to the door on multiple occasions — especially delivery people. Thank goodness for Ring Bells! Is that just me? Can any of you relate? Or when you see someone you know in the grocery store — even if it’s someone you really like — you totally hide from them. What IS that? I also find texts or anything that has the expectation of an immediate response intrusive. And anything that threatens my freedom agitates me. Am I a total weirdo?!?
I definitely identified more with my Wing 4 – The Individualist:
Fives, especially with the Four wing, sometimes mistype themselves as Fours. Such Fives recognize that they have strong emotions and don’t identify with the often extremely cerebral portrait of type Five. But, Fives, unlike Fours, always retain some degree of discomfort when it comes to the expression of their emotional states. However much facility they may gain with it, the language of emotion is not their native tongue.
** Fours are identity seekers, who feel unique and different **
People of this personality type tend to build their identities around their perception of themselves as being somehow different or unique; they are thus self-consciously individualistic. Fours tend to see their difference from others as being both a gift and a curse – a gift, because it sets them apart from those they perceive as being somehow “common,” and a curse, as it so often seems to separate them from the simpler forms of happiness that others so readily seem to enjoy. Thus, Fours can manage to feel superior to others while also secretly harboring some degree of longing and envy. A feeling of being a member of the “true aristocracy” alternates with deep feelings of shame, and fears of somehow being deeply flawed or defective.
A desire to manifest this internal world often leads Fours to an interest in the arts, and some do become actual artists. Whether artistic or not, however, most Fours are aesthetically sensitive and concerned with self-expression and self-revelation, whether it be in the clothes they wear or in the overall nature of their often idiosyncratic lifestyles.
I definitely prefer to think of myself as unique and not common — but then again, doesn’t everyone? I am VERY aesthetically sensitive. Very, very, very. Overly so.
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I related to these parts of the 4 – The Romantic:
How to Get Along with Me
- Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
- Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
- Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
- Though I don’t always want to be cheered up when I’m feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
- Don’t tell me I’m too sensitive or that I’m overreacting!
What I Like About Being a Four
- my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
- my ability to establish warm connections with people
- admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
- my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
- being unique and being seen as unique by others
- having aesthetic sensibilities
- being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me
4 seems to be the most common thread. But then there was this curveball…
Peacemakers are receptive, good-natured, and supportive. They seek union with others and the world around them.
How to Get Along with Me
- If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don’t like expectations or pressure. DING DING DING!
- Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. YEP!
- Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It’s OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally. UH HUH!
- Ask me questions to help me get clear. ALRIGHT…
- Tell me when you like how I look. I’m not averse to flattery. BINGO!
- Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings. ONLY IF YOU’RE FRED BABY!
- I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. NEVER A CONFRONTATION!
- Let me know you like what I’ve done or said. DUH!
- Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life. WHO WOULDN’T WANT THAT?
What I Like About Being a Nine
- Being nonjudgmental and accepting.
- Being able to relax and have a good time.
- Knowing that most people enjoy my company; I’m easy to be around.
- My ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator.
- My heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now. (Actually not sure I like it, but that’s how I am.)
What’s Hard About Being a Nine
- Being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally.
Is this all horse hockey? I have no idea. But, like your horoscope, it’s fun to ponder and to help you perhaps understand yourself better — the good and the bad. And even more so, to help you understand what your significant other’s and loved ones’ Enneagram types are so that you can understand them more and get along better. After all, isn’t that what we’re al trying to do?